The method of Hakomi was developed by Ron Kurtz. The word, “Hakomi,” is derived from American Indian language and means “where do you stand in relationship?” Mary Kay has trained extensively in the Hakomi Method with Ron Kurtz, Flint Sparks, and Donna Martin.

Hakomi is a way of studying the system of beliefs that drive a person’s way of doing things. Many of our attitudes and feelings show up quite unconsciously within our bodies, often as tensions that our horses acutely sense. The way we hold our bodies when we ride and work with horses often shows subtle clues about unconsciously helds beliefs that make us do the things we do, and ride our horses the way we do.

Hakomi is a gentle way of contacting and bringing to the surface our unconscious beliefs and seeing if they interfere with how we want to interact with our horses. Because horses are extremely sensitive to body language, we need to be as aware as we can of what our bodies are communicating to them. They usually have a sense of what our unconscious intentions are even when we ourselves do not.

Practicing Hakomi, sometimes our system of beliefs will reorganize and free us from things which block an authentic relationship with our horse.

Mindfulness is a key ingredient of Hakomi. It means that you pay close attention, with a quiet non-judgmental perspective, to what you are feeling in your body and in your mind in each present moment.

Hakomi in Horsemanship allows spontaneity and effectiveness in our riding. It opens a door to a wonderful and synergetic connection with your horse.

The gentle principles of Hakomi are embedded in all of Mary Kay’s teachings.